If you think the previous article by “Desiring God” ministries was a one-off, let me resolve any doubts! 
“speaking to a husband about her concern she would necessarily be acting in an insubordinate or unsubmissive way. She might be if her attitude is wrong, but I think a mature, godly, Bible-saturated woman knows the difference between nagging a husband in a pushy or insubordinate way, on the one hand, and humbly and wisely bringing to the husband her concerns and seeking with him a way forward toward relational health that would make both of them and the children holier and happier. . . . .
If they can’t seem to make progress together, then it might mean seeking the husband’s agreement that they would bring a wise biblical counselor into their lives.“
That is what the Scriptures teach about the covenant of marriage after seeking to address the issue, with a little-to-no reasonable response by her husband after 20 years? — “seeking the husband’s agreement.”
Have we gone mad! 
This “Tortuous Ideological Complementarianism” imprints what has happened at BC&S, many a ministry that has unquestionably adopted the thinking of John Piper, and so many of the teachers/preachers who follow Desiring God writers!
Some have left their biblical sensibility and sanity! Others have gone over the cliff with Piper by failing to challenge such teaching/preaching. Piper’s positions are ideologically driven and flows out of a commitment to an unbiblical principle that “God is most glorified when we are most satisfied in Him and ‘His will’ for our lives.” For Piper (and many other Bible teachers and preachers) all other Scriptural truths and principles revolve around that stated ideological hub. 
“Satisfied in Him,” seemingly means that a wife submits to and ultimately accepts all that happens to her in her marriage. Apparently, calling her spouse to account, directly speaking to her pastor or a counselor with or without her husband’s knowledge or permission, is not being satisfied in His will and way.
After 20 years of her working through and living with this situation, my advice as a pastor is far different! Sin, selfishness, wickedness, and unrepentant evil are not something you allow to continually uproot the covenant of marriage.
It is consequences that are designed to humble, and when the consequences are removed, there is little hope for any humility and change. What no consequences do produce is hard-heartedness. 
Check out “Loammi” Hosea 1:9-10, 2:23
If you are saying that you represent what the Scriptures teach as the righteous and proscriptive will of God, as found in the Bible, then I have good reason not to believe anything you say as being biblical. If you can so twist the Scriptures to allow for that kind of response — “I would pray” — then you have the ability to twist Scripture to mean anything!
I remember talking to an individual who was a pastor/Bible teacher/reformed theologian/and-or Calvinist who repeated that God is most glorified when we are most satisfied in Him and that such should be the principle that guides the response of a wife to 20 years of her husband’s pornographic addiction. . . . .
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5. Tell the families of Uvalde, Texas, whose children were killed, the parents of a young five-year-old child who was sexually molested, the wife whose husband has shattered their marriage, and the friend of mine who is dying of cancer (likely due to the unsafe environmental factory conditions) that what they are going through is a blessing, a blessing FROM God!
The underlying ideology of this kind of thinking and such statements has led to all kinds of passivity and inappropriate actions. Poor-to-terrible counseling, wrong-doing, social injustice, and horrific abuse have been left unaddressed (and even justified as biblically appropriate and justified) because of this type of thinking — “We need to see this as from the hand of God.” 
Yes, I understand that God uses sin, sinlessly. That God can still bless us, and does, midst our sin and the sins of others. But the sin was sinful, it is not therefore acceptable to be left unaddressed, and it is not a blessing from His hand. Any attempt to promote some passivity towards the sinful actions of men is but an argument to allow it to be more acceptable and/or for it to continue unaddressed!
6. Moses allowed divorce a writ of divorce because of the hardness of men’s hearts!