A New Description: The De-churched

I would have thought that his church would have been experiencing a great deal of political disruption,
but he said that they have been free from such controversy and division!

Located in the hear of Washington, D.C., you would think that Capitol Hill Baptist Church would find themselves torn by the political and social issues of our day, but one of the members stated . . . “Not at all!”  He indicated that Pastor Mark Dever has always kept the church’s focus where it needed to be, and that was not on politics, but on people and the Gospel.

In contrast, many churches are deeply embroiled in political and social division, where you have to be selective about who you talk to about what you talk about.  Below the surface, there is real division on so many different levels.  Add to that the “de-churched.”

“The De-churched” is a new description of those who are probably not returning to their “church of origin.”  They have been pushed away from their church by the sermons, statements, prayers, insensitivity, pastoral “could care-less-ness,” and strained conversations that have disquieted them emotionally and spiritually.  They are believers, but they have been alienated by the words, actions, and attitudes within the church — left and right and everywhere in-between.

They would say . . .

“I have not left my church; my church has left me!”

And perhaps it has, and so they have left the church as well.  They are no longer comfortable in their home church, and attending church is no longer a pleasant experience [1] — for a variety of different reasons . . . .

Rightfully – – – – – – to – – – – – Questionable – – – – – to – – – – – Bad – – – – – to – – – – – Terrible.

I would suggest that a radical shift is taking place in church attendance, ranging from “changing churches-to-leaving the church.” — from . . . . .

“re-churching- – – – – to – – – – – -dechurching.”

Politics, A Lack Of Pastoral Care or Concern, Vaccinations, Masks, Social Issues, Foolish & Ungodly Racial Comments, Party Affiliations, President Trump-Biden, Small Groups, New Calvinism, Change of Sunday Services. . . .  have all been contributing factors for those who used to attend regularly.  These past “members and friends of the church” now feel like they are walking through a minefield of issues.  They believe that they cannot speak to others without making “disclaimers” (“I know that not everyone agrees with . . . “) because they are now walking through a field of divisive landmines — of which some have already exploded! They must now be very cautious as to what they say at church, to even their brothers and sisters in Christ!

Add to that, those who were members of a church which was focused on outreach, and now there seem to be little to none.  There is no effective outreach into the community, just the language of personal evangelism and community concern!  It’s all too obvious that it is just talk.  Few, if any, have been reached for the Gospel, and it is the “elephant in the room.”  Where is the fruit of personal AND corporate evangelistic efforts by “my church?”

Worse yet, they believe that their church is alienating large swaths of people away from the Gospel by bringing these issues into church life and pulpit attention. To invite a guest is to face being embarrassed by “the pulpit.”  The pastor is going to make some partisan comment or degrading assessment of a political personality or party — or worse!  They will now have to do some “damage control” after the message!  And — No — It isn’t worth inviting someone to go through that experience a second time!

It’s not the criticism of others or the evaluations about the value and purpose of this-or-that decision, program, or policy.  Instead, they themselves have been personally disillusioned about their church’s Gospel purpose, their pastor’s love of them and others, and/or their fellow worshippers’ Christlike attitudes —  because of what they have now personally experienced!

We have moved into a new era.  The era of the De-Churched!

“I have not left my church; my church has left me!”



1. Please, do not say or take the position that attending a local church should not be a pleasant experience.  Let’s not lose all common and biblical sense!  — Psalm 133

. . . . .

“Sometimes we simply feel insulted by the de churched, and so we judge them. How dare they come to our churches, get involved and then declare themselves disinterested or unimpressed. Clearly if they were more committed, more godly or simply more pleasant, they would have stayed. And so we dismiss them.” — Brian Harris

Churched, Un-churched or De-churched

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